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🔢 Key Takeaways

  1. It's important to be honest about what you believe in, even if it goes against societal norms. Faking it may seem easy, but it only leads to complications and inner turmoil.
  2. Some individuals may fake their religious beliefs to conform to societal norms, but this can compromise moral integrity. We need to question why people feel compelled to do so and consider the consequences of blindly following religious norms.
  3. While it may be tempting to say what people want to hear, it's important to maintain personal values and only fake interests that won't harm anyone. Professionalism and honesty should always be a top priority.
  4. Faking it has become a means of survival in today's society, where appearances are highly valued and everyone feels the pressure to present themselves in a certain way.
  5. We use signals and fakery to convey emotions, intentions and abilities to gain approval. While it's a part of daily life, we must use it as a coping tool without swindling or being fake.
  6. Faking it is sometimes needed to cope in a cut-throat world but it's important to find a balance between that and being true to our authentic selves.

📝 Podcast Notes

The Kingdom of Faking It: The Struggle to Remain True to Oneself

The human psyche has a Kingdom of Faking It, nestled between Cheating and Lying. Even President Obama had to face this. In 2008, he had to explain why he sat idly in church while his pastor Jeremiah Wright preached hateful messages against America. Obama was faced with a difficult choice because the answer was not something he could say. This situation reveals how humans often have to compromise their beliefs to fit in with society or avoid conflict. However, it is important to remain true to oneself and be honest about what one believes in, even if it goes against societal norms. It is easy to fake it, but in the end, it only leads to further complications and inner turmoil.

The Pressure to Fake Religious Beliefs

Politicians and individuals may fake their religious beliefs to avoid negative publicity or judgment from others. In the case of Obama, he avoided admitting that he was not a regular church-goer to prevent questions about his faith and commitment to religion. This raises the question of whether strict religious rules have become a burden on individuals, as seen in the case of Brian, who felt pressured to conform to small-town norms. The expectation to adhere to certain religious practices may lead some individuals to fabricate their beliefs, compromising moral integrity. It is important to consider the root causes that compel individuals to hide their true beliefs and question the societal consequences of blindly adhering to religious norms.

The Art of Faking It at Work

In a work environment, it's often easier to regurgitate what people want to hear rather than express your true beliefs to keep the cog running smoothly. This includes faking religion, family plans, and interests. It's not about harming anyone, but rather fitting in and achieving objectives quickly. Faking it is likened to adopting hobbies common among management. However, although it may seem harmless, it's important to note the distinction between saying you play golf and actually playing it versus pretending to have children and attend church without any intention of doing so. In the end, it's about maintaining professionalism and preserving personal values.

The Art of Faking It: From Politicians to Professors

Faking it has become a norm for many people, especially politicians. John Edwards has been known to take faking to a whole new level by faking it nonstop during the 2008 campaign, even with so much personal turmoil. While Americans and journalists are understandably skeptical of their politicians, Edwards' fakery is a striking example of what people fear most about politicians. Faking it also applies to everyday people, like professors who feel impostor syndrome in their professions. People fake it to get through their daily conversations or jobs. In a society where appearances matter, faking it has become a necessity for many people.

Embracing Signals and Faking It: The Signaling Theory

Faking it is a part of our daily lives, signaling theory is a framework for this problem. We often use signals to convey our emotions, intentions and abilities to others, even if we are faking it. This is because we want others to like us and appreciate us. Although we cannot be 100% authentic all the time, we can embrace fakery to some extent to ensure our dignity and honor remain intact. The words 'I'm sorry' and 'I love you' are often faked and have become instrumental words. In summary, we should use fakery as a coping tool, but avoid swindling anyone by being fake.

The Art of Faking It in a Competitive World

Faking it may not be ideal, but it is necessary in a crowded and competitive world where people often do terrible things. It helps us cope and prevents us from acting on our transient sentiments. We live in a society where faking politeness and niceties has become a norm, even if it feels fake-y sometimes. However, it is also crucial to remember that faking it is not who we truly are. Our more continual and long-duration selves are the real us. Therefore, it is important to strike a balance between faking it when necessary and being true to ourselves to avoid being distressed later on.