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    Rick Rubin ON: Why Unconventional Methods Lead to Success & The Secret to Genuinely Love What You Do

    Embrace distraction to nurture creativity, submerse oneself in a subject to gain greater understanding, expand your circle to allow for new perspectives, and cultivate obsession to become a true expert in your field.

    enJune 05, 2023

    About this Episode

    Today, I sit down with Rick Rubin to talk about living a life of creativity. Rick shares his insights on why curiosity is a powerful tool when it comes to achieving dreams and finding success, the influence our attitude has towards the things that we do and the people we surround ourselves with, and how to stay focused on your goals and not get distracted by negativity and lack of support.  

    Rick Rubin is an influential music producer and record executive known for his work with artists across various genres. Co-founding Def Jam Recordings, he played a vital role in shaping hip-hop music and produced albums for iconic acts such as LL Cool J and the Beastie Boys. Rubin's production style combines rock and hip-hop elements, and he has collaborated with diverse artists like Johnny Cash, Red Hot Chili Peppers, and Kanye West. His minimalist approach and emphasis on capturing raw performances have earned him numerous accolades and established him as a highly sought-after producer in the industry.

    You can order my new book 8 RULES OF LOVE at 8rulesoflove.com or at a retail store near you. You can also get the chance to see me live on my first ever world tour. This is a 90 minute interactive show where I will take you on a journey of finding, keeping and even letting go of love. Head to jayshettytour.com and find out if I'll be in a city near you. Thank you so much for all your support - I hope to see you soon.

    What We Discuss:

    • 00:00 Intro
    • 00:22 At the core of it, who do you see yourself? Who are you trying to create? 
    • 02:42 Why are we addicted to becoming accepted? 
    • 07:38 How did curiosity develop for you and how did it start?
    • 10:41 Habit is something you get better at the more you practice
    • 11:43 Some are fearless in life, and there are some who are fearless when it comes to art
    • 13:11 Commitments in life differ from the commitments you make in art
    • 15:24 How does our attitude change things around us?
    • 17:59 We all have a creative decision and it what makes a difference in our daily activities
    • 19:49 What have been the biggest blocks in creativity?
    • 24:05 Is creativity stifled and why does it matter?
    • 27:19 We all have a story and we all can learn from each other
    • 30:19 There are several ways to sing your life song
    • 32:29 Why can't I be creative? What can I do to get better?
    • 34:36 How do you stay confident in a competitive space and share your work openly?
    • 38:21 How do famous people deal with criticism and stay unaffected?
    • 43:30 How can you differentiate procrastination from distraction?
    • 50:24 How do you submerge yourself in your craft?
    • 52:35 Listening to monks can significantly change your life
    • 56:36 Understanding the power of meditation and how to practice it
    • 59:29 What is the biggest challenge in your life and what did you do about it?
    • 01:05:31 What is the best way to inspire someone when most people don’t like being told what to do?
    • 01:07:45 What is your purpose in life?
    • 01:10:06 Why do we often feel unworthy of happiness and love?
    • 01:11:21 How does first success feel? Did it make you happy?
    • 01:15:50 What’s the best moment you’ve celebrated over success?
    • 01:20:56 This is how you can preserve a good dream
    • 01:24:56 We can’t predict an outcome so choose to do what’s interesting for you
    • 01:29:41 When you receive an advice, listen to your own intuition
    • 01:32:53 Rick on Final Five

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    🔑 Key Takeaways

    • To be true to oneself and resonate with others, it's important to understand what we like and be confident in our opinions, without overthinking things. Tuning into oneself can unlock creativity and tap into unexplored potential.
    • Embrace who you are and be open to learning from others with differing viewpoints. It's through this process that we unlock our imagination and creativity and are able to create meaningful connections with others.
    • To better understand the world, we must have an open mindset, be receptive to new information and willing to learn from people with different views. Developing a habit of meditation can also help us understand our own perspectives.
    • Embrace the attitude of fearlessness and passion in creating art. Don't let fear of risk or controversy hold you back from pushing your creative boundaries. Stay true to your passion and avoid compromising your creativity.
    • Don't limit your creativity based on the opinions of others - give yourself the freedom to explore and make creative choices. Everyone has the potential to be creative, even if they don't see themselves as "creative people.
    • True success in art comes from creating something you're proud of, rather than creating something based on social media or audience feedback. Don't be afraid to break rules and follow your vision, even if it goes against publishing standards.
    • Don't compromise your creative vision based on others' expectations or trends. Your unique perspective adds value to the world, and sharing and learning from each other's experiences bridges diverse understanding in creative works.
    • By changing the context and environment, individuals can break away from monotony and boost their creativity and productivity. Simple, tangible changes can have a significant impact and unlock hidden potential. Experiment and find what works for you.
    • Creating a supportive community of like-minded individuals can enhance creativity and build confidence. Sharing work with others, even direct competitors, can lead to unique styles and refine the art. Inviting an audience, practicing in front of friends, and being in a group can also improve focus and authenticity.
    • Don't be discouraged by criticism or competition. Instead, focus on pushing yourself artistically and bringing out your unique essence. The only competition that makes sense is against yourself. Remember that criticism tells about the person giving it as much as it tells about your work.
    • While procrastination should be avoided, distractions and external stimuli can help in approaching problems with fresh perspectives. Walking meetings and sitting next to each other in collaborations are productive ways to increase creativity and productivity.
    • Embrace distraction to nurture creativity, submerse oneself in a subject to gain greater understanding, expand your circle to allow for new perspectives, and cultivate obsession to become a true expert in your field.
    • Success in any craft requires dedication, perseverance, and taking risks. Breaking through barriers leads to the freedom to express oneself and make a difference in the world.
    • Meditation is a valuable tool for personal growth and success. Find a practice that works for you and prioritize inner work and self-improvement. Start with 'Wherever You Go, There You Are' and make meditation a consistent part of your life.
    • Putting aside our skepticism and following expert advice can lead to significant success in achieving our health and fitness goals.
    • Our purpose in life is unique and not necessarily linked to our job. Liberating ourselves from the pressure of finding it can lead to a more fulfilling and authentic life. Lead by example, inspire others through our actions, and be creative in the world.
    • Pursue your passion, but don't sacrifice financial stability for it. Supporting yourself allows you to be creative and not feel limited by success. Remember, everyone is capable of creating beauty and is special in their own way.
    • External success may not bring long-lasting happiness. Internal growth, presence, and service to others can lead to true fulfillment and success. Focus on achievable goals and personal passions rather than chasing external recognition.
    • The small, meaningful moments of discovery and gratitude that create the magic behind a song can stay with you for years and make even the most experienced producers feel childlike excitement when they hear their old work in public.
    • Writing down your dreams immediately after waking up can help you better understand and tap into your subconscious mind, leading to greater self-awareness and potential insights in various areas of your life. Practice and persistence can improve the process over time.
    • Follow your passions, trust your intuition, and be open to the signals your body sends you. Don't just do what you think is right; listen to your inner guide and learn to recognize the levels of wisdom that guide you.
    • Pay attention to your inner voice as it holds valuable information. Avoid blindly following others and rigid beliefs. Don't suppress your instincts and be open to new experiences. Success comes from trusting yourself, not just external direction.
    • In his book and podcast, Rick Rubin emphasizes the importance of staying true to oneself and spreading love, offering valuable inspiration and insights for all seeking to pursue a creative journey.

    📝 Podcast Summary

    Being Honest with Oneself and Tapping into Creativity

    Rick Rubin believes in tuning into oneself and being honest with oneself. By understanding what one likes, why one likes it, and what one does not like and why, it's possible to be true to oneself. Sharing what's going on inside authentically is the best chance of resonating with others. Rubin suggests that being confident in one's opinion is like tasting food, where it's clear whether one likes it or not. Too much overthinking or adding layers to something simple can make things complex. Rubin's book The Creative Act, which is performing well, can help tap inward and access a part of oneself that may not even exist or refine and deepen the part that does.

    Embracing Authenticity and Openness in Personal Growth

    People often mold themselves to become someone that people like, but the best way to be accepted is to be authentic. Embracing our imperfections and sharing our personal experiences and viewpoints make us interesting and help us understand the world better. It's important not to assume that we know everything and instead seek to learn from those with different views. While defending our viewpoint may make us feel safe, it's important to entertain opposing ideas and be open to learning from them. By embracing our true selves, we unlock our creativity and imagination, which can lead to beautiful and unique creations that resonate with people on a deeper level.

    The importance of being open-minded and curious for personal growth

    Being open-minded and curious is important for personal growth. It is essential to understand that there are paradoxes and nuances in life that we must comprehend to have a better understanding of the world. We need to be receptive to new information, open to changing deeply held beliefs and remain committed to ongoing learning. To achieve this, we should have a mindset of constantly evolving, be willing to listen and learn from people with different views and be able to argue points opposite to our beliefs. Developing a habit of meditation can help us to quiet ourselves and get in touch with how we see the world, which is a starting position to comprehend how others see it.

    Pushing boundaries in art through fearlessness and passion.

    Creativity is about being willing to push boundaries and take risks, especially in the world of art. Fearlessness in life doesn't always translate to creativity, but the attitude we bring to things can change our experience. Even if we're afraid of something, deciding that it's okay can shift our mentality and make it less terrifying. The purpose of creative acts is to see how far we can take them, and it's important to make things that we like, even if they're risky or controversial. Making things should always be driven by passion first, and the fear of sacrificing that creativity for anything should be avoided as much as possible.

    Overcoming the Fear of Judgement to Unlock Creativity

    One big block to creativity is concerns about what other people think. We often make things different because we think other people would like it more that way, but we don't know for sure. Many fears are not real, and mostly exist in the mind. We all make creative choices every day, like deciding to take a different route home or trying a new recipe. The book, and life in general, is an invitation to open that channel of creativity as far and freely as we can. Hence, creativity is not just for artists and creative people, rather everyone can access and has access to it, but we just don't acknowledge it often.

    Success in Art - Focusing on personal satisfaction rather than external factors.

    As an artist, success comes from creating something you like enough for others to see, not from others liking it. Making something great is a devotional act, an offering to God, and shouldn't be based on external factors like social media data or audience feedback. The obsession with data and remaking old IP is stifling creativity, but choosing to create something unique and not following the rules can make it stand out in today's world. Rick Rubin's book is an example of going against publishing rules by sticking to his own vision, rather than writing what publishers thought people wanted from him.

    Staying true to your vision in creative work

    When it comes to creative work, it is important to stick to your vision and not compromise based on the expectations and opinions of others. Rick Rubin and Jay Shetty both emphasized the value of staying true to what you want to create, even if it means facing rejection or going against popular trends. Each individual has a unique perspective and experience that informs their creative work, and it is through sharing these perspectives and learning from each other that we can make sense of the world. While there may be similarities and patterns in creative works, each one is ultimately distinct and offers something new and valuable.

    Small Changes, Big Impact - How Altering Context Enhances Creativity and Productivity

    Practical tiny steps can enhance creativity and productivity. Changing the context and environment may help break the chain of sameness, resulting in a shift in consciousness, variation, and truer performance. As demonstrated by Rick Rubin, changing the meaning of a song, such as singing it to God instead of a human, can improve the artist's connection with the lyrics. Similarly, changing an element of the environment, such as turning off the lights or recording early in the morning, can enhance variation and creativity. Tangible changes in the surrounding can significantly impact productivity. Therefore, individuals should experiment with such changes in their own areas of work to unlock their hidden potential.

    The Importance of Community for Creative Artists

    Creating a unique and comfortable environment can enhance the creative process for artists. Inviting an audience, even just one person, can change an artist's behavior and improve their focus. Practicing in front of an audience, even if it's just friends, can help refine the art. Being in a group can sometimes hinder an artist's authenticity, but confidence in one's own style can lead to a supportive community of artists. Sharing work with competitors can demonstrate confidence and result in unique styles. Having a community of like-minded individuals can inspire and enhance creativity.

    Cultivating a positive approach to criticism and competition

    When receiving criticism and feedback, it's important to remember that it's telling you as much about the person giving it as it is about your work. We all have our own perspectives and relationships with art. Therefore, it's not productive to compare or compete with others. The only competition that makes sense is against yourself; to continue evolving and pushing yourself artistically. It's easy to get complacent in success and repeat what has already been done, but this is not productive. Instead, focus on bringing your own essence out. Don't let metrics or the number of competitors discourage you from creating because your unique perspective is what makes you one of one.

    Overcoming Creativity Challenges Through Distraction and Collaboration

    Distraction and procrastination are common challenges faced by the community when it comes to creativity and tapping into essence. While procrastination is not a good one, distraction can be helpful if you hold a question to be solved and go do something else, like take a walk or go for a swim. Doing so opens up your brain to external stimuli and allows you to approach problems with fresh perspectives. Walking meetings are a great way to increase productivity as external stimuli help shift the conversation into more interesting areas. Sitting opposite to each other when in a meeting, couples are known to create a distance, which is counterproductive. Sitting next to each other creates a better atmosphere for collaborations.

    The Benefits of Distraction in Creative Thinking

    Distraction can actually be healthy, especially when holding a question or idea and toying with it. Going for a drive, listening to instrumental music, or observing nature can help generate creative ideas. Submerging oneself in a subject or topic can bring out obsession that helps understand it better. Having a circle of random and disconnected people can lead to original, authentic ideas as opposed to having a closed circle that creates an echo chamber. Being in a hyper-connected world, it's important to hold onto the ability to submerge oneself and fall in love with something to learn everything possible. Obsessiveness brings out great artists who know everything about their subject and want to learn more.

    The Commitment and Sacrifice Behind Greatness in Comedy and Life

    Comedians talk about their commitment to performing every night until they can get good at their craft, which can take years of having bad performances and banging their head against the wall. Breaking through with themselves to where they get past all of the blocks is what leads to the freedom to express views and be heard. Jay Shetty became a monk after being inspired by a speaker who talked about how the greatest thing you can do in the world is to use your gifts in the service of God and humanity. Jay's fascination with people who can change the trajectory of your life is why he does his show, to introduce people to thoughts that can change their lives.

    The Power of Meditation for Personal Growth and Success

    Meditation is an important part of personal growth and can significantly impact one's life. Whether one is a good or bad artist or monk, what matters is that they live as one. For Rick Rubin, learning TM at the age of 14 and practicing it consistently has been life-changing. He urges people to find a meditative practice that works for them and recommends the book 'Wherever You Go, There You Are' as a good introduction to meditation. Meditation is becoming increasingly popular and is a valuable tool for achieving success in all aspects of life, including finance. Inner work and self-improvement are crucial for personal growth.

    Rick Rubin's Weight Loss Journey: A Tale of Skepticism and Success.

    Rick Rubin's biggest challenge in life was losing weight and he tried everything without any success until he saw a nutritionist at UCLA recommended by his mentor who had worked with Frank Sinatra and Jimi Hendrix. At first, Rubin was skeptical about this new nutritionist and thought his suggestions were crazy, but he agreed to do exactly what he was told. This was a life-changing moment for Rubin who lost 135 pounds in just 14 months. The key takeaway from this story is that sometimes we need to give up on our own preconceived notions and follow someone else's advice to achieve success, especially when it comes to health and fitness.

    The Importance of Finding Purpose and How to Live Authentically.

    Finding our path and purpose in life is unique to each individual, and there is no one answer for anyone. It's hard to teach someone something that we don't practice, hence it's important to act in a creative way in the world and do it to the best of our ability. It is through the way we carry ourselves that we inspire others to do the same. While many people may feel like what they do is a commodity, it is important to realize that our purpose is not necessarily related to our job. Liberating ourselves from the pressure to pursue or find our purpose can free us to live from a more fulfilling and authentic place.

    Don't Let Your Dreams Risk Your Stability

    Your job is your job and your purpose might be something else. Don't let following your dreams undermine your ability to support yourself. You want the stability of being able to take care of yourself in the world to be free to do whatever your passion is. Being able to support yourself will give you the abundance to be artistic. There is a mythology that people who make things that we love are special people. That's not the case, we all are humans and sometimes we find a way to make something beautiful. Everyone is special and no one should undermine their worth. Success should not trap you in repeating it.

    The Illusion of External Success and Internal Fulfillment

    Material or cultural success doesn't guarantee internal contentment or fulfillment. Many successful people are unhappy because they're constantly working towards something they think will make them happy, but it doesn't change who they are. The pursuit of something that will magically solve our problems can result in hopelessness when the end goal is achieved, and nothing changes internally. Presence, learning and growth, achievable goals, and service to others, are the true sources of joy, happiness, and success. Making something that excites us and hearing it for the first time, rather than external recognition, can bring about the feeling of inward success and fulfillment.

    The Magic Behind Unexpectedly Hearing Your Produced Song in Public

    The feeling of hearing a song you produced unexpectedly in public after many years is still overwhelming and magical, and it's a journey that begins with small, meaningful moments of discovery and gratitude. These moments become mental notes that we recall and relive when we hear the song again. It's the humble beginnings, the fun experiences, the intriguing moments of curiosity that create the magic behind something that is still out there many years later. Even though the producer has been in the business for 35 years, the experience of hearing an old song in public is still as fresh and childlike as the day it was made.

    The benefits of journaling about dreams

    Journaling about dreams can help tap into subconscious intelligence and provide insights that are not always apparent in our waking life. By writing down even fragments of dreams immediately upon waking up, we can better recall and understand the subconscious messages they are conveying. It's a practice that can be cultivated and improved over time to gain a deeper understanding of ourselves and the world around us. Taking time to observe and be present with our dreams and subconscious can lead to greater self-awareness and potentially provide inspiration and insights, even in areas seemingly unrelated to our dreams.

    Trusting our Inner Guide and Listening to our Bodies

    We should do things that interest us and not worry about the outcome. Our inner guide directs us and we should listen to our intuitions. There is more going on in our bodies than we know and we should be open to it. We often do things just because we think they're right, but should actually do what interests us. Rick Rubin learned proper form Olympic deadlifting without knowing that it was the worst exercise for his heart condition. Even though he didn't care about the weight lifting, his intuition caused anxiety because his body knew that it was dangerous. We should always listen to our bodies and intuitions because there are levels of wisdom that we don't understand.

    Trusting Your Intuition and Inner Voice for Personal Success

    Pay attention to what's going on inside yourself and trust your intuition, as the information inside you is valuable. Avoid blindly following advice from others, even if they are respected experts. Avoid holding onto rigid beliefs as the world is filled with uncertainty and complexity. Be comfortable with not knowing everything and be open to learning and experiencing new things. Trust yourself and your intuition and don't suppress it, even if it sometimes speaks quietly. Listening to your inner voice leads to success, even more so than taking direction from the outside world.

    Rick Rubin's Philosophy on Living and Creating for the Highest Good

    Rick Rubin emphasizes on making every step in the interest of the highest good, believes strongly in everything and suggests everyone to Love each other if he could create a law that everyone in the world has to follow. His book, "The Creative Act. A way of being" is a gem and a must-read for all those who seek inspiration in their creative journey. Rick Rubin's new podcast named "Tetragrammaton" is aimed to speak to people who are not musicians as he is much more interested in people beyond music. Jay Shetty recommends to go and subscribe to the podcast to hear amazing interviews and new insights on people that we know and love.

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    How can changing your money mindset impact your life?

    Robin Sharma is a globally respected humanitarian who, for over a quarter of a century, has been devoted to helping human beings realize their native gifts. Widely considered one of the top leadership and personal mastery experts and speakers in the world, his clients include NASA, Yale University, and the Young Presidents' Organization. His #1 international bestsellers such as The Everyday Hero Manifesto, The 5AM Club, The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari, and Who Will Cry When You Die? have sold millions of copies in over ninety-two languages and dialects; making him one of the most widely read authors in the world. 

    Robin shares his wisdom on the significance of releasing resentment and redefining our relationship with wealth. He also talks about exploring the essential daily practices that promise personal growth, the complexities, and at the same time, the benefits of altering our social circles, and provides insights into nurturing a healthy relationship with money. Jay and Robin unpack the pivotal role of rest in our daily routine and productivity, and how to break free from the chains of multi-generational cultural norms.  

    In this interview you'll learn:

    How to release resentment

    How to treat money as a tool

    How to rest properly

    How to cultivate great friendships

    The daily practices to transform yourself

    Whether you're seeking to overcome generational patterns or find peace in solitude, this episode is your guide to a more fulfilled and intentional life.

    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss:

    00:00 Intro

    04:26 Don’t Be A Resentment Collector

    08:47 Money Is Your Servant, Not Your Master

    12:33 When Are We Happiest?

    15:01 Where Do We Start?

    19:12 3 Daily Practices to Transform You

    23:37 2 Reasons Why We Can’t Change Our Circle

    27:06 Joy Is A Great GPS

    28:28 Why Rest Is A Necessity

    34:35 Breaking Multi-Generational Culture

    41:07 Why You Need to Spend Alone Time 

    43:00 Rewire Your Relationships With Money

    45:35 There Is A Time For Every Season

    48:22 What Are Scarcity Scars?

    54:13 What Is A Great Friend?

    57:10 Don’t Confuse Kindness With Weakness

    01:00:33 Someone’s Victory Is Your Possibility

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    8 Steps for Overcoming Fear of Judgment & 3 Key Questions to Level Up the Next Three Months (90 Day Check In)

    8 Steps for Overcoming Fear of Judgment & 3 Key Questions to Level Up the Next Three Months (90 Day Check In)

    How have your goals changed since January? 

    What's your next step for improvement in the coming 90 days?

    This episode isn't just a conversation; it's an invitation to dive deep into your thoughts, feelings, and aspirations. Jay discusses the tough questions about identity, authenticity, and personal growth, guiding you through a process of self-discovery and transformation. You'll find insights and strategies to help you understand who you truly are and how to align your life with your deepest values. Whether you're looking to break free from the fear of judgment, understand your true desires, or simply get a clearer picture of where you're headed, this is the ultimate guide to your first 90-day check in.

    In this episode, you'll learn:

    How to overcome the fear of judgment

    How to be your true self

    How to handle external pressure

    If you're ready to challenge the status quo and redefine your sense of self, let's uncover the power of self-reflection and the beauty of becoming who you truly are. 

    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss:

    00:00 Intro

    01:03 Why Live Your Years in Quarters

    03:11 The Hardest Challenge Today

    05:12 #1: What Is the Most Difficult Judgment You’re Afraid Of?

    07:00 #2: Who Would You Be If You Didn’t Worry What People Would Think About You?

    07:57 #3: What Would You Do If You Didn’t Worry About What People Think Of You?

    13:47 What Did You Use to Value You Don’t Value Anymore?

    16:58 Attachment and Aversion Are Two Sides of the Same Coin

    21:07 3 Questions You Need to Ask Yourself

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    Gary Brecka: 5 Ways Sitting is Shortening Your Lifespan & 2 Changes to Transform Your Daily Routine

    Gary Brecka: 5 Ways Sitting is Shortening Your Lifespan & 2 Changes to Transform Your Daily Routine

    Do you want to know why sitting for a long time shortens your lifespan?

    Do you want to know how to transform your daily routine?

    Today, Jay is joined by Gary Brecka, the Co-Founder and Chief Biologist of 10X Health and the founder of The Ultimate Human. With more than 20 years of Bio-Hacking and functional medicine experience, Gary has worked with and everyone from CEOs to professional athletes from the UFC, NFL, Professional Boxing, and entertainment industries. 

    What will you do when there is a possibility to predict how many more years you have left? Jay and Gary ponder on how our daily habits and emotional states impact our overall health and longevity, the dangers of a sedentary lifestyle and emphasizing on the need for regular movement, the benefits of deep, intentional breathing to enhance physical and mental well-being, and the complexities of mental health disorders, shedding light on common misunderstandings and the reasons why some supplements may not deliver their promised benefits. 

    In this interview, you'll learn:

    How to boost your emotional health with simple daily practices

    How to reduce health risks by moving more throughout the day

    How to deepen and lengthen your breaths for better health

    How to clear your mind by understanding and addressing brain fog

    This conversation is focused on empowering listeners with knowledge to make healthier lifestyle choices.

    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss:

    00:00 Intro

    01:13 Predicting Your Lifespan

    09:17 What Is An Emotional State?

    12:54 Sedentary Lifestyle Is a Health Hazard

    15:37 Why You Need to Breath Deeper and Longer

    22:44 Why Mental Health Disorders are Often Misunderstood

    32:20 The Some Supplements Don’t Work

    36:54 The Science Behind Brain Fog

    44:30 Pre and Postpartum Care

    48:55 Folic Acid Mutation

    50:36 Deficiencies Are Passed Down, Not Diseases

    56:01 What’s Wrong with Tap Water?

    01:03:02 How Much Chlorine is in Your Water?

    01:06:41 Gary on Final Five 

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    6 Steps to Manage Anxiety When It Feels Like It Is Never Ending

    6 Steps to Manage Anxiety When It Feels Like It Is Never Ending

    Are you struggling with anxiety?

    Are you looking for ways to become less anxious?

    Today, Jay Shetty will share several ways to manage anxiety, why it consumes us and how we can navigate through it. Jay will also share insights on how to consciously choose and amplify the voices and influences that nurture your well-being, how to program your mind with positivity and intentionality before bed and upon waking up - a crucial practice that can pave the way for a restful night and a more focused tomorrow.

    In this episode, you'll learn:

    How to not start your day with worry

    Begin each morning with gratitude 

    Prepare your mind with positive thoughts 

    There is healing in acceptance and tolerance, the essential practices for cultivating inner peace and resilience against life's inevitable ups and downs.

    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss:

    00:00 Intro

    00:29 Do You Worry a Lot?

    03:38 Avoid Dealing with Your Worries Upon Waking Up  

    07:31 Start Your Day with Gratitude

    11:25 Increase the Voice You Want to Hear

    14:49 Program Your Mind Before Going to Bed

    18:42 Sometimes, Staying Busy is Healthy

    19:48 Practice Acceptance and Tolerance

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    Dr. Daniel Amen: 3 Steps to Stop Your Brain’s Guilt Cycle & How to Re-Parent Yourself to Build Mental Strength

    Dr. Daniel Amen: 3 Steps to Stop Your Brain’s Guilt Cycle & How to Re-Parent Yourself to Build Mental Strength

    Do you want to know how to stop your guilt cycle?

    Do you want to know how to build positive mental strength?

    Today, let's welcome back renowned psychiatrist and brain disorder specialist Dr. Daniel Amen. Dr. Amen known for his work as the director of the Amen Clinics and a bestselling author, having written numerous books on brain health and wellness, and has also produced television programs promoting his theories on brain health. 

    Dr. Amen talks about mindful parenting, ways you can set goals with your children and nurturing their ability to think independently. He shares a simple 20-minute practice to deepen your connection with your child, and understand the pivotal role of boundaries in their development. 

    Let's understand how critical it is when children retreat into themselves and offer strategies to mend and strengthen the fragile threads of parent-child bonds. Dr. Amen challenges the practice of labeling children as 'smart' and instead, focuses on cultivating their problem-solving skills and shed light on the often-overlooked emotional burdens our actions can place on our kids, from the subtleties of attachment to the complexities of misunderstanding them.

    In this interview, you'll learn:

    How to empower kids through responsibility

    How to build mental strength

    How to foster problem-solving in children

    How to implement loving discipline

    How to instill the value of hard work on kids

    This conversation will help you better understand the hacks of raising well-rounded, resilient, and loving individuals in today's fast-paced world. 

    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss:

    00:00 Intro

    00:46 How Do You Set Goals For Your Kids?

    04:34 How Do Children Become Free Thinkers?

    10:19 Allow Your Child to Get Uncomfortable

    13:01 The 20-Minute Practice to Bond with Your Child

    17:46 What Does No Boundaries Lead To?

    21:26 Why Do Children Shut Down?

    24:54 How Do You Repair a Broken Bond?

    28:00 Don’t Tell Your Child They Are Smart

    31:04 How Can Your Child Solve a Problem?

    33:07 You’re Making Your Kids Miserable

    35:16 Attachments That Become Broken

    37:37 I Don’t Understand My Child

    41:54 What is a Loving Discipline?

    44:51 My Child is Addicted to Social Media

    46:25 What Does Social Do to the Brain?

    48:35 Effects of Divorce on Kids

    51:01 Teach Your Child to Self-Soothe

    53:39 How to Love Your Child Right 

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    8 Ways to Decide Which Friendships to Invest In & Which Friendships to Let Go Of

    8 Ways to Decide Which Friendships to Invest In & Which Friendships to Let Go Of

    Do you feel tired of small talk and no real connection?

    Do you want to start building genuine friendships?

    Today, Jay talks about the eight simple tips to help you decide which friends to keep close and which ones you might need to step back from. You'll learn how to spot friends who make you happy and help you grow, and notice the ones who might be bringing you down.

    Let's understand the impact of the company you keep, the power of focusing on yourself, and the wisdom in discerning relationships meant for a season, reason, or lifetime. Jay unpacks the value of tough conversations and learns to distinguish between fleeting friendships and those destined for depth. There is strength in setting boundaries and the transformative experience of shared challenges. 

    In this episode, you’ll learn:

    How to choose your long-term friends

    How to deepen new friendships

    How to be the right friends to others

    This episode is your guide to nurturing genuine connections and fostering personal growth in a world craving authenticity.

    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss:

    00:00 Intro

    01:00 Who Do You Spend Time With?

    04:05 Focus on Yourself

    05:06 Season, Reason, or a Lifetime

    10:29 Is Repairing a Broken Relationship Worth It?

    13:24 Why Do We Need These Hard Conversations?

    15:58 Not Every Friendship Has a Future

    18:32 Shallow Conversations Don’t Lead to Genuine Connection

    21:26 Barriers Keep Others Out, Boundaries Keep Us Safe

    23:08 If You Don’t Fit In, That’s Okay

    25:04 Doing Difficult Things Together 

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