🔑 Key Takeaways
- Being prepared for emergencies and having a plan of action can help avoid chaos and stay calm during unexpected situations.
- Small, kind gestures from strangers can transform someone's day. Make it a mission to spread positivity and change lives by being a little kinder each day.
- Practicing genuine gratitude involves deep appreciation and noticing the positive things around us, but engaging in toxic gratitude can have negative effects. Genuine gratitude triggers a positive chain of events in our minds improving overall happiness.
- Genuine gratitude should be cultivated and practiced regularly to avoid toxic gratitude. Laughing at oneself through mistakes can be helpful. AT&T supports podcasts that promote positive change and online safety for kids.
- Cultivating genuine gratitude creates a lasting impact and positive energy buzz by expressing appreciation for situations, people or forces, changing how you move through life, and experiencing the lingering positive effects.
- Practice genuine gratitude by being specific and emotionally connected while acknowledging difficult situations. Avoid toxic gratitude by avoiding manipulation, shaming, justifying inaction, escaping emotions or self-deprecation.
- Genuine gratitude involves accepting both positive and negative aspects of life, while toxic gratitude only focuses on the positive. Don't use gratitude as an excuse to stay in unhappy situations. Balance gratitude with self-respect and seek out better opportunities.
- Don't use gratitude as a means to ignore negative emotions. Instead, give yourself time to process and talk about them. Remember that gratitude is just one part of a complex emotional spectrum.
- Acknowledge your emotions during tough times and offer support. Don't use gratitude to take away from your accomplishments. Believe in yourself and take responsibility for your success.
- Practice gratitude towards yourself for your past and present accomplishments, and take note of the synchronicities and good moments in life. Recognize the power of gratitude to lift you up and create a force field of good around you.
- Cultivating calm in a chaotic environment involves grounding techniques and intentional living with a strong purpose. Genuine gratitude can motivate and provide positivity, but beware of toxic gratitude. Seek professional advice when necessary.
📝 Podcast Summary
Importance of having an emergency plan
Having a plan in case of emergencies is important as it can help in staying safe. Mel Robbins shares her experience when the fire alarm went off in her hotel at 3:48 AM. She remembered her elementary school training of not taking the elevators in case of a fire. Despite being half-asleep and soaking wet, she put on some clothes, wore her favorite necklace, and rushed out to safety, ready to face any challenge on her way. It's important to be prepared for such situations and have a plan of action to avoid chaos and stay calm when the unexpected happens.
The Power of Kindness from Strangers
Kind and caring gestures from strangers can have a significant impact on our day. Mel Robbins missed her alarm and was running late for her exercise class. However, the warm, loving and kind behaviour of Judah, who was sitting at the front desk, made her day. Instead of being frustrated and angry about Mel's late arrival, Judah was helpful and gracious. He gave her a hairband, put his arm around her shoulder and walked her into the class with enthusiasm. Such small acts of kindness could transform someone's day. In fact, people could even make it their mission to be a little kinder each day and spread positivity, it might change someone's life.
The Art of Practicing Genuine Gratitude
Practicing genuine gratitude is important but most people are doing it wrong. Genuine gratitude involves deep appreciation, noticing, and appreciating what's happening around you. Engaging in toxic gratitude, on the other hand, can have negative effects. There are six forms of toxic gratitude and most of us may have engaged in some of them. Practicing genuine gratitude triggers a positive chain of events in our minds resulting in the flow of feel-good hormones and neurotransmitters such as dopamine, oxytocin, and neuroepinephrine. This in turn improves focus, decision-making, and overall happiness.
The Difference Between Thankfulness and Genuine Gratitude
Gratitude is a personal and deep experience that should not be overused and turned into a shallow sentiment. Mel Robbins emphasizes the difference between being thankful and genuinely grateful. Through Professor Edmunds' research at UC Davis, she identifies six forms of toxic gratitude that people need to stop doing in their lives. It is crucial to understand how to cultivate genuine gratitude and practice it regularly based on this research. Laughing at oneself through bloopers at the end of every podcast can also be a fun way to enjoy the process of self-improvement. Finally, today's sponsor AT&T supports podcasts that can change our view of the world and is working with the Dove Self-Esteem Project to promote kids' online safety.
The Power of Cultivating Genuine Gratitude
Being thankful is a transactional and automatic response whereas genuine gratitude is deeply felt and lingers on. Gratitude is not expected in the moment from anyone else and oftentimes surprises you. It has a lasting impact and creates a positive energy buzz. Genuine gratitude happens when you express your emotion of appreciation for a situation, person or force that you are connected to. When you cultivate those moments of gratitude, it changes how you move through your day-to-day life. Having a gratitude practice is more than just writing down things that you are thankful for; it is about cultivating genuine gratitude and experiencing the lingering positive effects it can bring.
Genuine Gratitude vs Toxic Gratitude: Understanding the Difference
Practicing genuine gratitude involves being specific, deeply personal, emotionally connected and leaving a lingering feeling of gratitude. Toxic gratitude occurs when it is used to focus only on the positive, manipulate or shame others, justify inaction, escape uncomfortable emotions, push positivity or knock yourself down when accomplishing something. The key takeaway is to practice genuine gratitude by being specific and emotionally connected to what you are grateful for, while avoiding toxic gratitude by acknowledging the reality of difficult situations and avoiding using gratitude to manipulate or shame others, justify inaction, escape emotions or knock yourself down.
The Difference Between Genuine and Toxic Gratitude
Genuine gratitude acknowledges both the positive and negative aspects of life, whereas toxic gratitude only focuses on the positive and disregards the negative. Toxic gratitude can manifest in various ways, including grandstanding, shaming, and justifying staying in unhappy situations. To cultivate genuine gratitude, it's important to give space for the negative, painful, and messy aspects of life, while acknowledging the lessons and hard work that accompany them. Don't shame or manipulate others with gratitude, and don't use gratitude as an excuse to stay in situations that make you unhappy. Instead, balance gratitude with self-respect and a willingness to seek out better opportunities or relationships that align with your values.
Avoiding Toxic Gratitude
Toxic Gratitude is using gratitude as a means to escape uncomfortable emotions. Acknowledge and validate uncomfortable feelings as they arise instead of quickly jumping to gratitude. By facing negative emotions and talking about them, they pass faster and you can process them better. Two things can be true at the same time. You can be thankful for the positives in your life, but also acknowledge that you deserve more. Don't rush into gratitude after a significant life event like a divorce, breakup, or death. Give yourself time to process the emotions and talk about them with others. Gratitude may be just one sliver of the many complex emotions you experience.
Toxic Positivity and Gratitude: Why being real feels better than forcing positivity
It's important to express uncomfortable emotions when going through tough times rather than engaging in toxic gratitude. Pushing positivity can make people feel like their emotions are not valid. Instead of forcing positivity, it's better to acknowledge their feelings and offer support. It's also important not to use gratitude to take away from one's accomplishments. Gratitude for the people who support and inspire us is moving and drives our work ethic, but we should acknowledge our hard work and own our accomplishments. Snoop Dogg's Hollywood Walk of Fame acceptance speech is a great inspiration to believe in ourselves and take responsibility for our success.
The Power of Genuine Gratitude Towards Yourself and Your Life
Practice genuine gratitude towards yourself and recognize the challenges you have overcome. Don't rely solely on gratefulness towards others. Be aware and awake in the present moment to notice synchronicities happening around you. Appreciate even the painful moments in life, knowing that they will help you grow. Remember that gratitude can help you tap into synchronicity and create a force field of good around you, lifting you up and magnifying the beauty of life. Recognize the power of genuine gratitude and use it to acknowledge your own hard work and the results you created, like DJ Khaled did when he thanked himself for never quitting and never having a day off.
Cultivate Calm: Purpose, Gratitude, and Grounding Techniques
In order to cultivate calm and positive energy in a chaotic environment, physically grounding oneself and being intentional in living life is important. Having a strong 'why' or purpose, such as pursuing one's passion, can help one withstand any challenges. Genuine gratitude, which is deep appreciation while acknowledging the reality of a situation, can also be a source of motivation and positivity. It is important to avoid 'toxic gratitude' that involves escaping or manipulating reality. Finally, the podcast is presented solely for educational and entertainment purposes, and it is not intended as a substitute for professional advice from qualified individuals.